All that glimmers…

Last week I had a gawd awful day. Life just blew up. And it wasn’t just that day, its consquence is ongoing. As this has happened before (and yes, sadly it has happened before) I recognised my withdrawal and I could feel that low black cloud descending.

I truly hope that you have never felt this way.

In my 50 years of life experience I notice some people never seem to have these awful life experiences. But maybe they do. I think that we, as a society are excpected not to talk about such things. To brush them aside and pretend that everything is ok.

But just in case you are ever in a predicament, I thought I would share with you how I have survived this week.

Dawn

Glimmers. Have you heard of them?

According to the Newport Institute (2023) “Glimmers are those tiny, seemingly insignificant moments when you feel a sense of joy, pleasure, peace, and gratitude…”

The way I was feeling, there was no way that I could find any positivity/joy/or gratitude within my day.

So I decided to make my own.

• I reached out to my close family & friends. I actually told them what had happened. (I had never done that before, preferring to make believe that ‘Everything is fine here’) and it actually helped. My friends offered support and comfort. They are the best. Glimmer 1.

• I sat with the feelings and my thoughts. I scrutinised the situation. I admitted that I didn’t know how to fix/move forward from here. I hate that feeling. So I was gentle on myself. All the things I had to do I did and then it was lounge time. Cup of tea, tv , feel, repeat. I chose to see this as a Glimmer 2.

• I was lucky enough to be able to bundle up the hubby, dog and the tent and set off for an overnight adventure. However the weather had different plans and the camping ground was closed. We came home the same day. Not a glimmer. But realising that the dog can handle 5 hours in the car was a glimmer. And I got to go to my favourite bakery and ate a glorious Nutella cruffin all to myself. Definitely a glimmer.

• Creativity. I now know why I was drawn so strogly to crochet 15 years ago. It gets me through the tough times. Last year I taught myself how to knit. So this week I have been tackling a new knit pattern that has been caught in my brain. The pattern is working out. So this is a glimmer.

• Usually reading is positive thing for me, but this week I haven’t been able to connect with my current book. Instead I have been listening to Podcast series while I do my jobs. This week it is series about cults. This has helped me realise that everyone is going through something. Definitely a new glimmer for me.

• Recently I have wanted to go watch the sunrise over the ocean. This week I got to do it. Did it make everything immediately ok? No, but man it was the best moment, watching the sun just pop over the horizon. Yep, this was a glimmer

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And there you have it, my tiny, little moments of peace that have helped me get through the day. Those moments that have made this week in my life bearable.

Oh and I have to add one more. Writing this down in this post. I have ummed and  ahhed about whether to post this or not. But when I was awake at 3:30 this morning, I wrote this post in my head. Typing

it now makes me feel better. Just a little.

So if you would like to share your own glimmers or if you want to share what you are going through, you can message me directly.

Honestly it may just help if you are going through your own tough time.

Kindly, Melissa

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